We now know that the whole world can change in a split second, which can be scary, especially when change seems to be something we have no control over. It gets even worse if you're doubting yourself in the middle of it all, and you're not sure of your own abilities to keep up. But instead of freezing in situations that require action, it's important to have the tools to shift your mindset from freeze to thinking and taking aligned action.
If you're feeling the insecurities of the current situation or simply hoping to do better in life, here are a few tips to help you manage your confidence and keep on keeping on:
Stop doubting yourself
Instead of doubting, start to believe in yourself. Believing in yourself is nothing other than a concept in your mind. It becomes reality when you back it up with your actions. Thus, pay attention to what kind of actions you're regularly taking. Are those actions backing up the concept of doubt or the concept of belief? What can you do differently?
When you shift your actions to be aligned with believing in yourself, you shift your doubts and reactions, too. This will help you transform your entire relationship with yourself and the world around you by making it less scary and less resistant. The best news is that even the smallest actions count, so be willing to start small and be surprised by the results.
Practice curiosity
Be willing to learn and to change your ways of operating (if necessary) on each step of the way. In order to do this, practicing curiosity helps.
I'm sure you've gotten marvelous advice like "just have courage and do it anyway" at some point in your life. But for many it leads to more questions than answers, because courage is something that develops afterwards — it's after you've done something you've feared or doubted that you feel courageous. Not before. So, how to get going then?
Prepare for success
We get what we prepare for, and what we give our attention to grows. Again, make sure that your actions are aligned with the wanted outcome. Regularly check in with yourself to notice the motive behind your actions and course correct, if needed.
Expecting more of yourself, of others and your possibilities is about reducing anxiety by shifting your attention from what is and has been, to what could be possible. This inner shift of expectations is the game-changer in living a successful life.